I’d love to say we’ve all been there, or we’d all know how we would react, but the likelihood is when it happens, it is a shock, completely unexpected, and above all, completely unfathomable! I mean, does he hate sliced bread that much?
The truth of the matter is Logan had recently started school and was starting to get to that point children do when they start school where they are tired and overstimulated. Most things that were out of the ordinary or against expectation seemed to be getting on top of him.
Before we visited Tesco, and through some trigger, Logan had remembered a trauma from 2 years ago that resulted in him randomly screaming, “I don’t love it”, at home. This memory related to a relatively everyday thing when we were on holiday in Gran Canaria, a street performer was dressed as a clown, playing a kazoo, and some drums were made from old piping! Normally, this would be relatively entertaining! But Logan made us aware he didn’t like it, so we moved him away, and since then, he randomly remembers this clown and starts to scream! Fun times!
So, taking us back to Tesco, Logan was sitting in the trolley, and we were doing our normal – walking around chatting away and singing songs (yes, I do sing songs in Tesco!!) when he suddenly started screaming “I don’t love it, I don’t love it” as high as his vocal chords would let him.
What do we do in this scenario? Well, we have many options:
- Wait for the ground to open up and hope it swallows you whole…
- Look around at the people staring and pray one of them is an exorcist…
- Push the trolley away and pretend he isn’t with you…
- Counter the scream by laying on the floor, hitting it with your fits and screaming louder…
Or
- Ignore the world around you, focus on your beautiful, traumatised little boy, reassure them that all is ok, talk them down and keep singing, and above all, keep smiling!
I mean, any of 1-4 would be hilarious, but the only way to handle this situation is to remain calm and focus on the task at hand. So how do we do this when every part of us is thinking “What do I do now?”? Let’s break it down…
- Ignore the world around you
- Focus on your beautiful, traumatised little boy
- Reassure them that all is ok
- Talk them down and keep singing
- Keep smiling
Now is the time to look up and go about your day. Looking smugly at the people around you is a choice only you can make, but drink in the looks on their faces where they spot the boss, can see that you have owned it, and are moments away from a slow clap.
And above all, you keep smiling.
Now, the big question on your lips is well, Graham, what did you do when Logan screamed!
Well, let me tell you!
I was mid-song, Bohemian Rhapsody I believe, and Logan clearly decided my vocal performance was just too much to bear… “I don’t love it, I don’t love it” rang out. So, I focussed on Logan, cuddled him and stroked the back of his neck (techniques from previously) and once I’d listened to and understood why he was screaming I remembered a previous success where I distracted him to something that happened that same day where we encountered another drummer and he let Logan’s sister play on his drum, ”that was kind wasn’t it Logan”, also reminding Logan that we never need to go back on holiday and the clown will stay on holiday. He calmed down, we had a cuddle and went looking for cake.
Bossed it.